Making Life Easy by Christiane Northrup

Author:Christiane Northrup
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Hay House
Published: 2016-11-10T05:00:00+00:00

Searching for Meaning

When we have been living a life that inflicts shame on us, we often shut down and disconnect from our Divine selves. Our egos, which were created to protect us from the pain of this disconnection and from the pain of leaving our innate oneness consciousness, take over. They go on a search for meaning in our daily experiences of shame, and one way they do this is to identify with one of three predefined archetypal roles: victim, persecutor, or rescuer. Victims are those who take no responsibility, putting the blame for their life circumstances on everyone and everything else: “It’s not my fault I’m overweight; it’s genetic.” Persecutors take full responsibility, but not in a loving way: “It’s all my fault I’m overweight. I shouldn’t eat so much cake. I’m a slob.” And rescuers evade the situation by focusing on helping others with their problems: “Weight? Forget that, I need to focus on this plan to build a school in Africa.”

While none of these roles addresses problems healthfully, they each provide an excuse to not fix what’s wrong. They give you a place. A purpose. Meaning.

At various times, we have all been in each of these roles. That’s part of being human. But to live heaven on earth you have to step out of them and take the bigger view. Most people can readily relate to the victim or rescuer role. But few of us are willing to step up and admit that sometimes we have been the persecutor. I certainly don’t know any parent, myself included, who hasn’t lashed out at their child and wounded them in some way. I vividly recall how once, at the end of my rope after a long day at work, I couldn’t get my oldest daughter (then six months old) to stop crying. I was crying and shaking her car seat and yelling at her, “What do you want from me?” Yikes. I have since apologized.

Running for the victim or rescuer role while assiduously avoiding the persecutor role and denying that you’ve ever hurt anyone or yourself does nothing to help you. Every single one of us has had to play the heavy and “fire” someone in their life—not contact them, not invite them to the party, disappoint them in some way. And no matter what you do to explain your position, you’re still going to be seen as “the bad guy.” There’s no way around it.

There is absolutely no power to change anything in your life as long as you chronically occupy one of these three positions. Way back in the 1980s, the well-known medical intuitive Caroline Myss did a reading for me. She said, “You are a rescue addict, do you hear me? Your heart rhythm has changed over the past year. You’ve got to stop that behavior.” I knew, deep in my heart, that she was correct. I had placed myself in the role of rescuer and, by doing so, often forgot that all people have a

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